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by Wanda
(Floral Park, NY)

I'm basically in the same situation. I met someone at work who at first said he was going through a divorce. That meant to me that both parties signed the papers.

Not too long after, he told me that she never signed the papers because she wants to go to marriage counseling and work things out. He said he wanted the same thing so I told him that we needed to stop spending our free time together. I told him we couldn't speak on the phone or hang out. We have not been physical in any way, however, we both have feelings for each other.

People are starting to notice how much we smile around each other. We speak quietly to each other and laugh a lot. We speak about lots of things. But I do know that he wants to give his marriage another shot so even though we are tempted we are not giving in to it. We do not place ourselves in situations where we would end up totally alone. We have been in my car together but we both respect each other. We've had the discussion about not speaking or seeing each other a couple of times but he always comes back around.

So I've given up on telling him to stay away, mainly because I do enjoy his company, his smile, the conversations, etc. The thing is that I don't want to be someone's regret or mistake. He doesn't want to hurt me, his wife or himself. Despite how we feel for one another none of us will make a move. I'm not sure what to do but I know I don't want to end up hating or resenting him, so we do nothing that will cause pain. I do have to admit that it does feel like an emotional affair but we don't want to lose each other as friends. Not too many people can resist temptation but it is important to do so.