Our society has a warped perspective

by Karl Morkunas
(Tallahassee, FL)

I grew up in a Catholic household and school. As I went into college I was a late bloomer and didn't have my first date till 19. To this day I still haven't figured out why so many women come complaining to me that they have dated this loser bastard that hurt them but never gave me a chance to show them how awesome of a guy I am. I too have fallen into the nice guy trap many times, and this shouldn't be a trap. Back in the 50's and 60's you can see that the nice guy got attention, this method worked, and it did indeed work up to the 90's still. However, 2000 on you'll see this trend based off of the media giving mixed signals about what a man should look like and act and vice versa for a woman.

A woman craving a bad-boy persona has some kind of detachment from her father. Why do I say this? The sister and I have repeatedly seen cases where woman who seek bad-boys never had a good relationship with their dad, thus they don't know how to identify a good man (they just know the media's interpretation.)

My first love told me that she loves nice guys and girls that want bad boys don't really know what they want. So yes there are woman out there that appreciate NICE guys. Now this example you gave was a bit extreme, but not all nice guys are that OVERLY nice. What most bad boys get is abnormal amounts of fights with their girl, they don't have any income, dress ghetto, aren't smart, and don't have a great personality.

Also consider most girls that go for bad-boys have low self-esteem. There's almost ZERO defense for nice guys. We shouldn't have to change who we are. We are confident and love who we are. If certain woman can't see that then they can go find themselves a loser bad-boy, because this nice guy isn't changing like the song, "Don't go changing to try to please me. I love you just the way you are."