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A Lesson on Foreplay
If you have been skimping on foreplay, you don’t know what you’re missing! Fooling around before the “main event” is at least half the fun. There are actually two components to foreplay: physical and emotional. Let’s talk about the emotional first. You could be the world’s greatest lover BUT…if all through the week you barely touch your wife or girlfriend, barely pay attention to her, or don’t tell her sweet things like how much you love her or how beautiful she is, guess what? She may not be all that responsive to you in bed. Women need ongoing emotional input from you to feel loved and safe. And when women feel loved and safe they are preprimed for sex. You may love her dearly and do things that you think show your love, like taking care of her car. This is a great thing to do for her but she needs more than that. She needs direct, unequivocal expressions of love from you. If you don’t already, say the words... I love you. Often.
After you’ve taken care of the emotional part of foreplay, you can move on to the physical. This is where KISSING gets a starring role.
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A good way to start is with gentle kisses and then move on to more serious, deep French kissing. Make sure your kisses are not slobbery or too forceful. They should be assertive but not make her feel like you’re choking her. You can take cues from her to see how she wants to be kissed by matching her level of gentleness or forcefulness. A wonderful turn-on is to take her face in your hands while kissing her. After kissing her mouth for a few tantalizing minutes, move on to her face or her neck, very erogenous zones for a woman, especially the neck. Make these softer kisses. We don’t need to go back to high school and have to explain the hickies on our necks the next day at work. A few strategic, small licks would be good too, but don’t pretend her neck or ears are an ice cream cone. Try going back and forth between mouth kisses and face and neck kisses. By now you both should be getting aroused and the “petting” phase can begin. Don’t be in too much of a hurry to zoom in on her vagina. There’s plenty of time for that and plenty of other things to do. Like touching her breasts. Generally speaking, women don’t like indiscriminate squeezing, as though you’re testing a mango to see if it’s ripe. Gentle stroking combined with kissing is a good way to go. You can ask her how hard or soft she wants to be kissed on her breasts because not all women have the same level of breast and nipple sensitivity. Asking for her input (at any time) is always good. (But don’t do it every 10 seconds because then she’ll feel like you don’t know what you’re doing.) 500 Lovemaking Tips...Click Here!Other erogenous places to touch, stroke, kiss, caress, massage, and lick are the backs of her knees, her hands, the small of her back, the insides of her thighs, her ankles and feet, and the back of her neck. Pretty much any part of her body is fair game and she will appreciate you appreciating other parts of her body besides her breasts, vagina, and butt. Now, on to touching the most sensitive part of her, her clitoris. I’m sure you already know this but she has to be wet before stroking her with your finger or it will not feel good. Again, generally speaking, gentleness is in order. If you’re not sure how much pressure to apply or whether or not she likes a circular motion or back and forth movement, put her hand on yours and ask her to show you. And consider your tongue to be a magic wand when it comes to pleasing a woman. Assuming she enjoys oral sex, do not underestimate the incredible pleasure you can give with the gift of your tongue on her. You can ask for guidance here too but slow, steady, and gentle are good bets. This is a great way to bring her to orgasm or to make her ready for intercourse, or both! How do you know when it’s time to move on to the “main event?” Of course you have to judge this for yourself but you should have a sense of how aroused and ready she is. You should both be bursting with excitement and eager to “go all the way.” And hopefully you haven’t been watching the clock. Just keep in mind that foreplay takes time. A wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am approach does not make for the best sex. (Although occasional spontaneous, quick sex is good too. But you can’t do it this way ALL the time.) You want to be fully aroused, BOTH of you in order to have maximally satisfying sex and foreplay is THE way to have it.
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