Changing The Nice Guy

by Giovanni
(FL)

I was the nice guy for a long time. I needed to change. I started to observe men who were successful with women. I also did some of my own research and experimentation. Here is what I learned.

The biggest problem with many men is that we are taught (usually by our mothers) to spend money, dinner, flowers, romance, etc. That is a huge mistake in the beginning of a relationship. I think many woman are turned off by that. Save that stuff for special occasions or when you know things are getting serious. If you want to be romantic, listen to your date. Find out something about her and surprise her with something small.

First dates should be fun and involve some type of activity. Hiking, museums, zoo, coffee shop, window shopping, festivals, etc. All these activities really allow you to spend quality time with your date without breaking the bank.

If you are attracted to women who date one loser after the next...stay away from her. Some people are attracted to abusers. Maybe they have daddy/mommy issues or think they don't deserve better. Nobody knows. Just stay away.

I don't like to meet woman in bars. But on occasion, I will go out to a bar/nightclub with friends. If you want to talk to a woman, do something out of the ordinary. If she has a hat on, ask if you can take a picture with her while you wear the hat. If she asks you to buy her a drink, politely say no and smile. People watch with her.

Never put up with bad behavior. WWWFM mentions woman don't like it when men behave badly on a date. The same goes with men. We don't like lateness, whining or rudeness. If your date does this, call her out. A woman will respect you more if you don't put up with bad behavior.

All of the things I mentioned have worked for me in the past. I am still single though. The military has moved me a lot in the past two years. Ladies, if you have anything to add, please let me know.