How to Approach a Woman in Church

The skinny on approaching a woman at church...

Dear WWWFM,

How does a grown man act on a crush he has for a lady that he attends church with?

Dear Kevin,

Same as he would for a lady anywhere! There's only one way to find out if the feeling is mutual (or might be) and that's by asking her out. If I read between the lines here, you may be feeling it's inappropriate because she's a fellow churchgoer and think you shouldn't be indulging in such base things in a house of God. But I wouldn't worry about that if I were you. I promise you God won't mind if an upstanding gentleman of the church is attracted to another member!

As for the nitty gritty of actually approaching her…have you met her or talked to her yet? Or have you only admired her from afar? If you've already met and she knows you, then throw caution to the wind and just ask her out. You could approach her after the service and ask her if she would like to go have a coffee at a nearby Starbucks. Or you could ask her if she would be interested in coffee, dinner, or whatever outing of your choice the following week. Just be your own charming self.

If you haven't even met her yet, you can be bold and just walk up to her and introduce yourself. "Hi, my name is Kevin. How long have you been coming to this church?" Or just walk up to her and say, "What did you think of today's sermon? I liked what the pastor said about_______." Or whatever feels comfortable and natural as a conversation starter.

Life is too short for a "grown man" to let shyness or fear stop him from going after what he wants. Maybe the two of you will fall in love. Or maybe she will say to you, "Sorry. Not interested." But the sooner you talk to her, the sooner you'll find out which it is. If you want permission from someone to talk to this woman, you've got it! I say go for it!

How to Approach a Woman in Church