A Woman's Mistake

by Marcus
(CA)

I wouldn't necessarily call a nice guy having a nice guy syndrome. That is rather a negative way of putting it. 'Syndrome' is a disease or sickness. I would never imply that nice people are sick. In today's world, more and more nice people are essential to our careers, our government, relationships, family and just being our peers. A good man is one who has been raised by decent parents just as a good woman raised by decent parents. I believe that good people are developed from their childhood and experiences in life. They become more aware of what life is all about.

The problem with women is that they have too much fear for selecting the wrong man. Who is the wrong man? How do you identify who is wrong or right for you? I think by your childhood, past boyfriends, ex's, and sometimes their father. The man a woman seeks is composed of all the people they have come in contact with, whether it be sexually, intellectually, physically, attitude, personality and habits. The woman's choice of man is based on their own comfort zone. I agree that a man should not have to spell out his life to get a woman. However, sometimes us nice guys can be mistakened for a bad guy. So we protect ourselves from what you a call a SYNDROME. A bad person is a syndrome because, from a spiritual standpoint we were all born innocent and we relied on our parents, teachers and friends to show us how to be who we are today. It's up to us to change our views and perspectives about life and relationships.

The woman needs to look deeper into a man to see if he is the one. His conversation is key. The fact that he can hold a conversation would be a determination of whether a woman would want to see a man again. If the man is nice and he is polite and has good conversation, what is so wrong with that. Ok, he talks about his accomplishments. Who doesn't. That means he has goals and obviously, he's comfortable with the woman he is talking to. So, he did alot of great things for other women. Ok, so just ask him what hasn't been so great in his life. If he explains, then at least this nice guy is honest. I know from experience how women despise men who lie. If he has a track record with women don't rule him out completely. He is human and if he took the time to confide in you then you should develop some level of respect for him. Know the difference between a nice guy, a changed man, and bad guy. If a nice guy is one who has no faults and is perfect then you may want to dig deeper because he is lying about something.